The reason you may be ready to explode is because you are keeping it all in.
You are not alone.
I’ve done it too love.
Trying to discern rather a time is good, a person is in a good mood, if the sun is out, and you get a sign from heaven first, before telling someone what has been on your mind.
Oh, and I’ll be the first to say that not everything that comes to your mind should be expressed, however if it has to do with your self worth, morals, values, or just overall well being, you might want to get it off of your chest.
Allowing yourself to get to a point where it is better out than it isn’t healthy. A consistent flow of communication is key in being able to better handle what needs to go out, therefore eliminating the overwhelming feeling of word vomit. You do not want to be in overload.
The Bible says that harsh words stir up anger.
How often do we say things that have been bothering us to someone, but in the wrong tone. Vibes attract vibes. If you’re coming off in a way that says you are still angry, more often than not, that person puts up a defense towards you. We have to die to our flesh, that part of us that feels if it’s said a certain way, it will be taken more seriously and acted upon.
A soft answer. That’s it. In a nutshell. Say it, don’t scream it, don’t yell it, don’t bark it, and don’t constantly repeat it. Just say it.
And when you say it calm, cool, and collected, you might want to take note of how the encounter goes. It will more than likely inspire you to want to keep the momentum going on being a more gentle person.
We all fall short. We all mess up. But what good is it, if we don’t learn anything? We must take into account what has worked and reapply with zeal. That every process has a purpose, and we must stay the course, even when it seems our efforts are in vain.
Most importantly, do it in love. If you’re going to say it, say it in love.
It doesn’t matter what you say, even if it is Oscar worthy, because if it is not done in love, it is meaningless.
Communication is vital. So do it! But practice doing it well. 💕